1. Don't curse your present circumstances ... Or gripe about the past.
When we encounter "negative" or stressful situations in
Our lives, our immediate reaction is to be outraged, frustrated or depressed.
This is the start of a downward spiral in which
We fill our minds with gloomy thoughts and generate more negative results.
On the contrary, when you believe there's a purpose for your difficulties,
your state of mind is quite different. You realize that
Your current situation is serving you in some way,
whether it's a turn in the road or a lesson that you can apply at a later date.
2. This principle is not limited to tragedies and problems.
While it's true that you can find positive aspects to every setback,
The idea that everything happens for a reason applies to positive experiences
and "neutral" events as well.
For instance,let's say that you meet someone at a networking meeting.
The person holds no special significance to you and
Doesn't seem likely to bring you any business.
What you're not considering are the possible ways that
the two of you might Help each other in the future.
3. Being passive is not the answer. Just because there is a "reason" for the
events that happen to you doesn't mean you Can achieve your goals
by sitting back and waiting for success to occur on its own.
It's still up to you to be proactive and Make things happen.
That requires energy, creativity and, yes, a lot of effort on your part!
4. Recognize the "two way street." It's easy to get caught up
with the idea that every person you meet has something to
Contribute to you. That's true to some extent. But, don't overlook the
fact that there is something for you to impart to others As well!
And, while there are often ways in which each party
contributes to the other, there are many instances where it's not
an Equal "give and take."
Thus, there are times in a relationship when you may be serving
another person more often than You are receiving from them.
5. You are always being directed toward something "better."
Have you ever been fired from a job ... Then moved on to
Find a better career? Or, have you terminated a personal relationship
(or been terminated yourself!) ... And then met
Someone who was a far better partner for you?
In both of these instances, life was pushing you toward something
that would bring you even more satisfaction. Of course,
In all of these situations, you had the option to close off
the improved alternative.
For instance, after being fired, you could have complained about
the lack of job opportunities. Or, after the relationship ended,
You could have concluded that you are "unlucky in love."
Yet, had you taken these approaches, you would have missed
The better situation that was just around the corner.
6. You'll never be able to explain everything.
The notion that "everything happens for a reason" will not
answer every question That you have about life!
On the contrary, although you'll find that you are better able to
understand certain events,
There will still be many mysteries that you can't explain.
There are no coincidences. When you believe this,
you'll enter a new world of possibility. When a problem occurs,
instead of Crying, "Why Me?" you'll look for the lesson you can learn,
or the opportunity that is on the horizon.have happened to you. It did happen ... there's a reason
You'll realize that it makes no sense to argue that something shouldn't
For it ... And, if you're wise, you'll use it to your advantage!