Thursday, February 25, 2010

A Simple Guide to become a Better Leader


What gives a man or woman the right to lead?

 

It certainly isn't gained by election or appointment . Having position, title, rank, or degrees doesn't qualify anyone to lead other people. And the ability doesn't come automatically from age or experience, either.

 

No, it would be accurate to say that no one can be given the right to lead. The right to lead can only be earned . And that takes time.

 

The key to becoming an effective leader is not to focus on making other people follow, but on making yourself the kind of person they want to follow. You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go.

As you prepare yourself to become a better leader, use the following guidelines to help you grow:

 

  1. Let go of your ego.

The truly great leaders are not in leadership for personal gain. They lead in order to serve other people. Perhaps that is why Lawrence D. Bell remarked, "Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things, and I'll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things."

 

  1. Become a good follower first.

Rare is the effective leader who didn't learn to become a good follower first. That is why a leadership institution such as the United State Military Academy teaches its officers to become effective followers first - and why West Point has produced more leaders than the Harvard Business School.

 

  1. Build positive relationships.

Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. That means it is by nature relational. Today's generation of leaders seem particularly aware of this because title and position mean so little to them. They know intuitively that people go along with people they get along with.

 

  1. Work with excellence.

No one respects and follows mediocrity. Leaders who earn the right to lead give their all to what they do. They bring into play not only their skills and talents, but also great passion and hard work. They perform on the highest level of which they are capable.

 

  1. Rely on discipline, not emotion.

Leadership is often easy during the good times. It's when everything seems to be against you - when you're out of energy, and you don't want to lead - that you earn your place as a leader. During every season of life, leaders face crucial moments when they must choose between gearing up or giving up. To make it through those times, rely on the rock of discipline, not the shifting sand of emotion.

 

  1. Make adding value your goal.

When you look at the leaders whose names are revered long after they have finished leading, you find that they were men and women who helped people to live better lives and reach their potential. That is the highest calling of leadership - and its highest value.

 

  1. Give your power away.

One of the ironies of leadership is that you become a better leader by sharing whatever power you have, not by saving it all for yourself. You're meant to be a river, not a reservoir. If you use your power to empower others, your leadership will extend far beyond your grasp.

 

Leadership isn't learned or earned in a moment.

with lots of lov & regards

subash

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Our Great India

LORD MACAULAY'S ADDRESS TO THE BRITISH PARLIAMENT 2 FEBRUARY, 1835

 

"I have travelled across the length and breadth of India and I have not seen one person who is a beggar, who is a thief, such wealth I have seen in this country, such high moral values, people of such caliber, that I do not think we would ever conquer this country, unless we break the very backbone of this nation, which is her spiritual and cultural heritage, and, therefore, I propose that we replace her old and ancient education system, her culture, for if the Indians think that all that is foreign and English is good and greater than their own, they will lose their self-esteem, their native culture and they will become what we want them, a truly dominated nation."


True Love


True love

 

This is what True Love is all about:

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.
 
I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him look at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.


On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation.  I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer' s Disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."  I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.  

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Perspective

 

 

 

 Perspective  
 
One  day , the father of a very wealthy family took  his son on a trip to the country with the  express purpose of showing him how poor people  live.


They  spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of  what would be considered a very poor  family.
On  their return from their trip , the father asked  his son , "How was the trip?"  


"It  was great , Dad."


"Did  you see how poor people live?" the father  asked.


"Oh  yeah , " said the son.


"So, tell me , what did you learn from the trip?"  asked the father.


The  son answered:  "I  saw that we have one dog and they had  four. 
We  have a pool  that reaches to the middle of  our garden and they have a creek that has no end.
We  have imported lanterns in our garden and they  have the stars at night.
Our  patio reaches to the front yard and they have  the whole horizon.
We  have a small piece of land to live on and they  have fields that go beyond our sight.
We  have servants who serve us , but they serve others.
We  buy our food , but they grow theirs.
We  have walls around our property to protect us , they have friends to protect them."


The  boy's father was speechless.  


Then his son added ,"Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are."


Isn't  perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder  what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have.

Appreciate  every single thing you have , especially your  friends!


Pass this on to friends and acquaintances and help  them refresh their perspective and appreciation.
"Life  is too short and friends are too  few."

SIMPLY AWESOME

 SIMPLY AWESOME . . . . . . . and so true ......

 

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born...
A Death Certificate shows that we died...
Pictures show that we lived!

Have a seat, Relax, And read this slowly.....!!

 

I Believe....
That just because two people argue, that
doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue, that doesn't mean they do love each other.


I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

 

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.


I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.


I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.


I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.


I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.


I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.


I Believe...
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.


I Believe...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.


I Believe...
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.


I Believe....
That my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.


I Believe...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.


I Believe...
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them...and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.

Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.


I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief.


I Believe...
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.


I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

 

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.


I Believe...
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.


I Believe...
That even when you think you have no more to give, if a friend cries out to you...you will find the strength to help.


I Believe...
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.


I Believe...
That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon..


The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; They just make the best of everything.


Thank you God for all the wonderful people who help us throughout the journey of life...


God Bless You!




Saturday, February 6, 2010

Nice Quotes

Nice Quotes


IF YOU START JUDGING PEOPLE YOU WILL BE HAVING NO TIME TO LOVE THEM - MOTHER THERESA


I'M NOT IN COMPETITION WITH ANYBODY BUT MYSELF...... .... MY GOAL IS TO BEAT MY LAST PERFORMANCE - BILL GATES

DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ANYONE IN THIS WORLD....... IF YOU DO SO, YOU ARE INSULTING YOURSELF - ALEN STRIKE .


NEVER EXPLAIN YOURSELF TO ANYONE...... .BECAUSE THE PERSON WHO LIKES YOU DOES NOT NEED IT..........AND THE PERSON WHO DISLIKES YOU WON'T BELIEVE IT - AUTHOR UNKNOWN


THE DREAM IS NOT WHAT YOU SEE IN SLEEP......DREAM IS WHICH DOES NOT LET YOU SLEEP. - DR. ABDUL KALAM (Former President of the Republic of India)

NO MAN IS RICH ENOUGH TO BUY HIS PAST - - OSCAR WILDE

IF YOU WANT REAL PEACE,.... DON'T TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS,...TALK WITH YOUR ENEMIES - MOTHER THERESA

WINNING DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN BEING FIRST,...... WINNING MEANS YOU'RE DOING BETTER THAN YOU'VE DONE BEFORE - BONNIE BLAIR


EVERYONE THINKS OF CHANGING THE WORLD,...... . BUT NO ONE THINKS OF CHANGING HIMSELF . - - - LEO TOLSTOY

I WILL NOT SAY I FAILED 1000 TIMES,...... .. I WILL SAY THAT I DISCOVERED
THERE ARE 1000 WAYS THAT CAN CAUSE FAILURE. THOMAS EDISON

NEVER BREAK FOUR THINGS IN YOUR LIFE,

a) TRUST,
b) PROMISE,
c) RELATIONSHIP and
d) HEART

BECAUSE WHEN THEY BREAK THEY DON'T MAKE NOISE BUT PAIN A LOT - CHARLES

IN A DAY, WHEN YOU DON'T COME ACROSS ANY PROBLEMS YOU CAN BE SURE THAT YOU ARE TRAVELLING IN A WRONG PATH - SWAMI VIVEKANANDA :


THREE SENTENCES FOR GETTING SUCCESS:

A) KNOW MORE THAN OTHER
B) WORK MORE THAN OTHER
C) EXPECT LESS THAN OTHER - WILLIAM SHAKESPEAR

LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN IT STOPS LOVING YOU - DR. ABDUL KALAM


IF SOMEONE FEELS THAT THEY HAD NEVER MADE A MISTAKE IN THEIR LIFE,THEN IT MEANS THEY HAD NEVER TRIED A NEW THING IN THEIR LIFE - ALBERT EINSTEIN



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Nice Quotes

Nice Quotes

IF YOU WIN YOU NEED NOT EXPLAIN .......... BUT IF YOU LOSE YOU SHOULD
NOT BE THERE TO EXPLAIN - ADOLPH HITLER


IF YOU START JUDGING PEOPLE YOU WILL BE HAVING NO TIME TO LOVE THEM - MOTHER THERESA


I'M NOT IN COMPETITION WITH ANYBODY BUT MYSELF...... .... MY GOAL IS TO BEAT MY LAST PERFORMANCE - BILL GATES

DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ANYONE IN THIS WORLD....... IF YOU DO SO, YOU ARE INSULTING YOURSELF - ALEN STRIKE .


NEVER EXPLAIN YOURSELF TO ANYONE...... .BECAUSE THE PERSON WHO LIKES YOU DOES NOT NEED IT.........AND THE PERSON WHO DISLIKES YOU WON'T BELIEVE IT - AUTHOR UNKNOWN


THE DREAM IS NOT WHAT YOU SEE IN SLEEP......DREAM IS WHICH DOES NOT LET YOU SLEEP. - DR. ABDUL KALAM (Former President of the Republic of India)

NO MAN IS RICH ENOUGH TO BUY HIS PAST - - OSCAR WILDE

IF YOU WANT REAL PEACE,.... DON'T TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS,...TALK WITH YOUR ENEMIES - MOTHER THERESA

WINNING DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN BEING FIRST,..... WINNING MEANS YOU'RE DOING BETTER THAN YOU'VE DONE BEFORE - BONNIE BLAIR


EVERYONE THINKS OF CHANGING THE WORLD,...... . BUT NO ONE THINKS OF CHANGING HIMSELF . - - - LEO TOLSTOY

I WILL NOT SAY I FAILED 1000 TIMES,...... .. I WILL SAY THAT I DISCOVERED
THERE ARE 1000 WAYS THAT CAN CAUSE FAILURE. THOMAS EDISON

NEVER BREAK FOUR THINGS IN YOUR LIFE,

a) TRUST,
b) PROMISE,
c) RELATIONSHIP and
d) HEART

BECAUSE WHEN THEY BREAK THEY DON'T MAKE NOISE BUT PAIN A LOT - CHARLES

IN A DAY, WHEN YOU DON'T COME ACROSS ANY PROBLEMS YOU CAN BE SURE THAT YOU ARE TRAVELLING IN A WRONG PATH - SWAMI VIVEKANANDA :


THREE SENTENCES FOR GETTING SUCCESS:

A) KNOW MORE THAN OTHER
B) WORK MORE THAN OTHER
C) EXPECT LESS THAN OTHER - WILLIAM SHAKESPEAR

LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN IT STOPS LOVING YOU - DR. ABDUL KALAM


IF SOMEONE FEELS THAT THEY HAD NEVER MADE A MISTAKE IN THEIR LIFE,THEN IT MEANS THEY HAD NEVER TRIED A NEW THING IN THEIR LIFE - ALBERT EINSTEIN

MIND


MIND

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A negative thought came to my mind.
He wore a charming smile
And I was sorely tempted
to invite him in awhile.


And as I hesitated,
He tapped softly on the door
And whispered through the keyhole
As he'd often done before.

 

He said, "I'll help you hold your grudge,
I'll help you sing the blues,
It seems like all your folks and friends
have turned their backs on you."


He said, "You've been misunderstood,
Mistreated and maligned.
I'll help you cry your heart out
If you'll let me come inside"

 

But, I kept my windows fastened
And my doors securely closed,
For I knew I'd be the loser
If I let him take control


For negative thoughts can multiply
And crowd the positives out
And make the mind a cesspool
Of anxiety and doubt.

 

And so I told the negative thought
I could not let him in.
He went his way, but I am sure
That he'll return again.

 

But no more will I greet him
With a welcome or a smile
And never will I entertain him
Even for awhile.


I'll fill my mind with positive thoughts
And on the door install
a sign which reads, "DO NOT DISTURB"
when negative comes to call
For tho' he knocks a thousand times
And yet, a thousand more
He cannot dominate my mind if I don't
 open the door.

~Author Unknown~

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Thursday, February 4, 2010

MEDICAL ALERT



 The Centre for Disease Control has issued a medical alert about a highly contagious, potentially dangerous virus that is transmitted orally, by hand & even electronically virus is called Weekly Overload Recreational Killer (WORK).If u receive WORK from ur boss, any of ur colleagues or any1 else via any means whatsoever - DO NOT TOUCH IT!!! This virus will wipe out ur private life entirely. If u should come into contact with WORK u should immediately leave d premises.Take two good friends to d nearest liquor store & purchase one or both of d antidotes - Work Isolating Neutralizer Extract (WINE) & Bothersome Employer Elimination Rebooter(BEER). Take d antidote repeatedly until WORK has been completely eliminated from ur system.u should immediately forward this medical alert to five friends. If u do not have five friends, you have already been infected and WORK is sadly controlling your life !! 


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